I’d been messaging/texting a guy from OkCupid for the last week and we agreed to meet up last night. When I showed up he seemed great. He was nice and friendly, told me how pretty I looked etc. and we settled into a quiet little bar for some drinks and to chat. As soon as we started chatting it became evident he had a very specific life plan and was basically looking for a wife on OkCupid (which is fine if that’s what you want). He began asking for my opinions on shared bank accounts and how long I thought people should be together before they got married. It was a bit awkward, but I went with it and basically gave him my opinion on the things he was asking. He started telling me all about how he’s really into martial arts (which is fine) and how he’d want ‘his kids’ to get into it too, and then started asking about whether my parents were still married and what my views on divorce were. So far, it’s awkward and feels like I’m being interviewed for the position of wife, but I’m not really thinking he’s a weirdo. Then, out of nowhere, he says ‘You can have kids, right?’ – which is, in my opinion, a totally inappropriate question to ask someone on a first date. But, I answered honestly that I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), and that while I can conceive it may be more difficult for me. Given that it was the first time we met, I didn’t feel he needed any more personal information on the matter. Things instantly changed. He said, ‘Yeah, that’s probably gonna be an issue for me – I’m looking for someone who is all good down there’. All good down there………. I was absolutely blown away by how callous his response was. I get that for some people, potential fertility problems are a deal breaker, but I don’t think it’s kind or appropriate to tell the person then and there – in the middle of a bar. I put a $20 on the table, said ‘Well, I hope you find the uterus you’re looking for’ and excused myself. About an hour later I got a text message saying, ‘I hope I didn’t hurt your feelings, I just don’t want to gamble with these thing ‘. I didn’t reply. That’s it pretty much – but it left me feeling like shit.