There are certain people out there who are great friends, but smooth as sandpaper in the dating game. It’s a common enough problem. In fact, you might have a friend who fits this description. Your friend means well, but the truth of the matter is that they come off as creepy or just borderline mental when they try to talk to the opposite sex.
Having a friend who is a creep tends to lead to a number of problems. Women often will avoid you because of a “guilty by association” mentality. If you do have relationship success, your creepy friend may get jealous or even try to break you up. It’s also always painful to watch a friend who you know has a good heart suffer. So, what can you do?
Well, realistically, you only have three options.
- You can ignore his behavior and hope for the best. This doesn’t get rid of the problem, but it is the easiest option. The problem with this option is that creepy behavior tends to escalate. What may have started out as just looking weird may escalate into them acting weird. What started out as just being kind of eccentric may snowball into your friend turning into a resentful, “stalkery” person who you barely recognize. This isn’t a good move.
- Tell them why they are failing in dating. More often than not, creepy friends often wonder what they’re doing wrong but won’t actually ask friends. Pull them aside and tell them that what they are doing isn’t acceptable behavior. With some luck, they may take it to heart.
- Slowly disengage from them. There is a point of no return for creepiness, sad to say. When a person is so completely out of the loop when it comes to decent behavior in dating, they will end up impacting their friends’ lives for the worse. Signs that it’s no longer worth talking to them include catching them hitting on/stalking your girlfriend, finding out that they’re flipping out on women who reject them, or verbally/physically assaulting a potential date. When your friend has crossed those lines, it’s time to bolt. You don’t want to be associated with someone like that.
The sad thing about creeps is that they are doing it all to themselves, and they often don’t even realize that it’s all their fault. However, the only person you can really change is yourself. So, when push comes to shove, it’s up to you to decide how much you can tolerate from your friend’s bad date behavior.