Creepy Cupid recently interviewed singles as we wanted to see if love only happens to “attractive people”. We conducted a survey with over 100 singles to find what they are looking for in a significant other. During our survey we received a lot of responses that were across the board. One response: “If there’s one thing I can say, it’s that I’ve experienced the ugliest side of humanity, mostly during my journey of trying to find love. The thing that never ceases to amaze me is how quick people are to judge when it comes to a person’s looks”. So with that being said, do we put too much weight on looks when looking for a mate?
Another response included “Back when I was 45 pounds overweight, no one wanted to talk to me—let alone date me. Now that I lost weight, people are knocking down my door for friendship and more. Imagine that. Truth be told, being overweight was an eye-opening experience that I don’t think anyone can forget”. So is it the fact that this person lost weight or simply gained confidence when she lost weight and hit her desired goal?
She further asserts “Before I had gained the weight, I honestly thought that love was something that can happen to anyone. Though I realize that looks mattered, I didn’t realize how much it mattered until I no longer was considered to be average or “hot” in appearance”. The truth is that it’s hard to be with someone that you’re not attracted to—and looks are always the first thing you notice.
While I can’t completely blame people for not wanting to be with someone who is not attractive, it’s obviously an important part of the mating equation. Further, dating apps make it about looks because you make a connection off a cover photo and a short bio. Since the stigma for online dating has eroded, the app-based world of dating is a critical resource in order to meet new people. If anything, all the variety that you would get on Tinder or Bumble means that you have to compete even harder for the chance to find your soul mate.
There’s a reason why you rarely see people who are physically unattractive dating gorgeous people. There’s a reason why people tend to match more on apps like Tinder when they look like models. People like pretty. Pretty shows that you have your act together at the very least—and that you have good genes at most.
All things considered, it’s not surprising that other apps started to take hold on a similar level. People are working harder than ever to make sure that they end up having the good looks they need to find love. For example, Living Sage Plastic Surgery Network lets you talk to a plastic surgeon on demand. You may also watch Plastic Surgery videos on demand to see various procedures that may be of interest. You don’t need Plastic Surgery to find a date, but it doesn’t hurt to look youthful as well boost your confidence if that’s what it takes.
One of our favorite responses in the survey “Lately, I’ve been approaching dating more like a stock market. Looks are one way to judge value. I now pay attention to a person’s looks, simply because I might as well judge others the same way they judge me. Call me shallow if you want, but I’m just being real. If you want to find love, you need to focus on your looks”. So in short, our survey confirmed that although self-esteem is critical, looks are still extremely important in the dating world.
So this is two different cases of what happened when I attempted to use OKC for online dating. I just gotten out of a rough two year-nearly three years of a relationship and I was hurt and some stuff happened, that is to personal to speak of. So I got on made my profile was happy with the site so far, plenty of people to attempt to talk to. Now I won’t say I’m this horrid ugly girl or whatever but I’m average, yea I’m plus sized what not but it didn’t bother me. I had a few near dates had a lot of creeps was used to it and it was gonna be ok. Well this first experience ended with me ok, and just odd at college.
Lets say his name is Ryan well, I was on the site just browsing saw his profile a few times said why not and messaged him. It started pretty good, we talked about various things and we thought about meeting but never set a date up. Well I convinced him to go into college get a degree even a basic one, he thought about it, but we never went back to the subject. Well Start of Fall semester of this year walked into my Western Civ 1 class and sat near the front got through class and was either in the Student Union or sitting at home when I get a message a creepy one. It was like “so I think I saw you today and this is what you were wearing” instantly im spooked because I thought it was freaky he knew what I was wearing. Come to find out, he was the guy that sat behind me in that class. Well our class was moved to a closer building and we sat with each other. I noticed he didn’t look like his profile pic, it was a little different and he wasn’t clean shaven. Well it was alright, we got along good. We went out ONCE not as a date but as friends it was fun but we ended up at the water view area, (think of it as make out point) we didn’t do crap just talked, i helped him get a game emulator on his phone for Pokemon. Red flag time, he mentioned how he just dumped his girlfriend a few weeks ago. I was like alright not that nice of a guy, we left got lost finally got home was cool. Well what made it so creepy and him so freaky was we had a project to do together, did not work out the program killed my laptop and it died, and told the teacher can’t do it, I’m leaving the class and then voiced my reasons. I told the guy exactly what I told the teacher and thus i said hey its my fault too what not, the guy FLIPPED OUT on me saying “he saw how I truly was that I was trying to make him look bad etc and how he had half the project done.” (He didn’t all he gave me was a half page of notes not even half a page like 3 lines). I was like you know what? whatever go to hell what not. Come to find out from one my good friends, that the same guy tried to get with a girl who ended up dating my friend. (and I don’t mean making out, he tried to get her to screw him and wasn’t to nice about it. She kicked his ass and left) and found out he did the same thing with another girl. She also kicked his ass. Well now he’s always at college with me, he sits near me at times and its so funny because I being who I am talks about a guy I am currently working out dating. The fact that I almost dated a guy that was almost a attempted attacker freaked me out and I refuse to go with anyone from OKC.
Second story, this ones even better. A guy messaged me saying how pretty and beautiful I was, I was taken aback because its not normal. (lets say his name is Sam) Well I check out his profile and what hits me the most is how he talks about sports and his life and such, kinda over demanding in a way. Then I notice he says hes open to Casual Sex. uh nuh no way in hell am I gonna get near a guy like that. I give him excuse after excuse as to why I’m not available, no car, no permit I have work and college the works. And he kept begging me to meet him pressuring me saying he just wanted an hour of my time he’d drive to see me (hes only a state away less than 40 minutes or so) and I’m like I give you reasons and you won’t respect them and finally I say I ain’t interested we aren’t matching and hes like I won’t beg you for your time and I say look I have another guy that I’m into etc and he messaged me back, not sure what he said, tryin to keep it from going to crazy. But I finally had to tell him I’m into another guy lol. He got mad because I was gonna meet a guy in a closer town than him and I was like I’ve been talking to him for a year or so not you. He got so mad. But that’s why you block a creep.
Just a warning to any young girls reading these stories or my own. Is all true 100% and I am prolly not much older than you (I’m 21) just know if you go on a dating site ALWAYS be careful and use Google’s reverse image search to your advantage and check user names etc. If they give you a first and last name ALWAYS CHECK IT. Have fun and be safe. I know I’ll be a lot better at who I meet or talk to lol.
He had the same user name for his dating profile and a men’s divorce site. Probably used the same handle for his e-mail. So, I advise you all to google a user name, and e-mail prefix. I googled my own e-mail prefix, and oops! Found it in an old forum that I had completely forgotten about, lol.
So, I feel like for some reason the craziest things happen to me as far as relationships and dating goes. I started talking to this guy Max, who I met on POF. He messaged me first saying ” You are by far the most attractive girl on here” He was super cute and I was excited to see if it would go anywhere. We started texting frequently, and would talk on the phone. After our phone call things got kind of weird and intense. He asked me if I wanted kids soon, because on my page it said I was undecided, he also said that if we worked out if I would move to New Jersey with him for his new job. After talking for a week or two, he was going to book a hotel and come visit/ meet me. He had just moved back to Buffalo, NY and I was in Virginia. So, I figured well we may as well meet and if he is willing to drive 7 hours and spend money to stay in a nice hotel then he seems genuine. However, after opening up to eachother he told me about how he used to live in Japan and was married, and before me he would only date Japanese girls who did not speak english. That raised a flag for me but again was not a turn off. The thing that did it for me was he told me if we date that I am not allowed to hang out with guy or be friends with any, and on nights I would go out he would text me telling to make sure I do not talk to any males or do anything stupid with them. What a hypocrite because then I found out he was messaging other girls, one being my friend and planning dates while he was in town supposively just to meet/ visit me. I called him out on it and he lied and said I was crazy and well that was that.