Creepy Cupid recently interviewed singles as we wanted to see if love only happens to “attractive people”. We conducted a survey with over 100 singles to find what they are looking for in a significant other. During our survey we received a lot of responses that were across the board. One response: “If there’s one thing I can say, it’s that I’ve experienced the ugliest side of humanity, mostly during my journey of trying to find love. The thing that never ceases to amaze me is how quick people are to judge when it comes to a person’s looks”. So with that being said, do we put too much weight on looks when looking for a mate?
Another response included “Back when I was 45 pounds overweight, no one wanted to talk to me—let alone date me. Now that I lost weight, people are knocking down my door for friendship and more. Imagine that. Truth be told, being overweight was an eye-opening experience that I don’t think anyone can forget”. So is it the fact that this person lost weight or simply gained confidence when she lost weight and hit her desired goal?
She further asserts “Before I had gained the weight, I honestly thought that love was something that can happen to anyone. Though I realize that looks mattered, I didn’t realize how much it mattered until I no longer was considered to be average or “hot” in appearance”. The truth is that it’s hard to be with someone that you’re not attracted to—and looks are always the first thing you notice.
While I can’t completely blame people for not wanting to be with someone who is not attractive, it’s obviously an important part of the mating equation. Further, dating apps make it about looks because you make a connection off a cover photo and a short bio. Since the stigma for online dating has eroded, the app-based world of dating is a critical resource in order to meet new people. If anything, all the variety that you would get on Tinder or Bumble means that you have to compete even harder for the chance to find your soul mate.
There’s a reason why you rarely see people who are physically unattractive dating gorgeous people. There’s a reason why people tend to match more on apps like Tinder when they look like models. People like pretty. Pretty shows that you have your act together at the very least—and that you have good genes at most.
All things considered, it’s not surprising that other apps started to take hold on a similar level. People are working harder than ever to make sure that they end up having the good looks they need to find love. For example, Living Sage Plastic Surgery Network lets you talk to a plastic surgeon on demand. You may also watch Plastic Surgery videos on demand to see various procedures that may be of interest. You don’t need Plastic Surgery to find a date, but it doesn’t hurt to look youthful as well boost your confidence if that’s what it takes.
One of our favorite responses in the survey “Lately, I’ve been approaching dating more like a stock market. Looks are one way to judge value. I now pay attention to a person’s looks, simply because I might as well judge others the same way they judge me. Call me shallow if you want, but I’m just being real. If you want to find love, you need to focus on your looks”. So in short, our survey confirmed that although self-esteem is critical, looks are still extremely important in the dating world.